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the inner man speaks

Have you ever been in a relationship, friendship, or partnership and you've wondered if this is where you need to be?

I know I've been in situations where I can actually do a checklist.

They fit everything I've prayed about. They fit everything I seemingly need. They fit.

Right?

But then your spirit is always a little off center. Not way off. Just a little. Just enough to keep your mind wandering every now and again. Doesn't have to be in just love relationships but even in friendships. Its not off enough for you to leave the person alone but enough to make you notice. You could appreciate everything that person had done for you. You could appreciate their support. It throws you. You ignore that "thing" that tells you something isn't 100% with this person.

What do you do?

I actually leave the person alone. I've had people, who I seemingly got along with, wonder what the hell happened to the friendship. I had a relationship with someone that was really perfect. NOTHING was wrong except I had that "thing" that said..well...no. I didn't fight it. I didn't try to make it happen. I loved the person. They are great BUT I think God was having me to recognize they weren't it. I walked away.


I really think we need to listen to the little tiny voice in our spirit...just saying...this isn't it before the voice gets loud.

if it doesn't fit, don't force it...

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