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Mr. Right as defined by everyone

When you're single, the world is your pimp. I mean everyone has an opinion of who you should date or better yet that your singlehood is some sort of mistake and needs to be corrected immediately. Its like they think there's some cosmic force playing some cruel trick.

(sigh)

Now my daughter has joined the club. She now has given her "permission" for mom to get out there and go for it. Wha?

I think I've missed the memo. Its not that I'm NOT looking but I am conservative about SOME things. I'm not a big flirt (believe it or not). But I've been told my conservatism will keep me single. I need to prop up the boobs and hit the clubs. :/ NOPE.

So let's examine the list others have subscribed to Mr. Right:

He's a mover and shaker
Business man, conservatively dressed (are you serious?)
Stedman type (hella naw)
Machismo type (well....)

You see the pattern.

The ulimate man's man is what most suggest Rhonda needs.

Well...ok.

What would my list look like? (lists suck though...really!)

  • The Stedman thing....NO. I don't need a man to play my background but to be very supportive in my career and vision. I do need a man with just as much passion and drive as I do. I want a man to admire me for my work and diligence but I don't want him to be be a fan if that makes any sense.
  • I think the Machismo thing is interesting because I do like a strong, masculine type of personality. In strong, I'm not meaning physically but mentally.
  • Smart. I don't mean the dude that has read a bunch of BS and he now thinks he's brilliant but a man that is intellectually sound. Smart AND Funny....is hella sexy.
  • Unselfish.
  • A man that isn't scared of me. LOL. I can be a force to be reckoned with at times. I can be very fixed on certain things, a little stubborn and seemingly unmovable and yet I really am. I think I'm rarely challenged. So someone who will question me would be a breath of fresh air.
  • Stylish and Fly with a dash of arrogance. I like a man to be a little arrogant sometimes and always confident. He would have his own style and "Way".
  • Spiritual. I'mma leave it there.

Lists are stupid but there you go. There's some of it anyway. I think I'm just waiting for God to do his thing. That's not to say there hasn't been men around. Oh, they are around. Some I would never date and others definitely fit the bill but it wasn't in the cards.

I'm not defined or validated by a relationship and yet I do know the importance of true partnership and teamwork and love within a relationship. Its ok that I'm single.

I think the man that comes along will be a blessed man cuz a sista has a lot to give.

No more pimpin' Rhon....

I'm good.

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