The things we do to be in a relationship and even to stay there can be really....saaaaddddd.
I remember trying to be EVERYTHING for my ex-boyfriend. It came naturally but I also compromised a peace of me as well.
Being single for sooooooooooooooooo long, (gigglin'), I've sat and watched the dynamics of various relationships around me. I can see where I made similar mistakes out of insecurity. You take leaps that you wouldn't ordinarily do. You start liking stuff because he/she likes them. You want to be the spark in their eyes. Been there and never going back. I'm all for making my partner happy but Rhon is about the real deal. I can't jump, leap or hop that high anymore and I wouldn't want a man who would expect it.
Be true to you.
This is what I've seen over and over. In the beginning of the relationship, everyone has their list.
I want him to be smart.
I want him to be ambitious.
I want him to be cultured
blah, blah, blah....
So, the potential partner hears this. They want you. They like you ALOT. They aren't as cultured. They really just like being the clerk (not the manager), the janitor (not the supervisor), the nursing assistant (not the nurse). That's all good though. DO YOU! They are smart BUT finds no use for it. They are cool though. When you look at them, you can see potential. There's something that keeps you there, right. Not all bad.
But the potential partner is a little insecure. They remember the list. They don't think you could like them FULLY because of who they are so they fake it. They fake until they make it. They try to fit into the list. Its not authenically who they are but they like you. They suddenly become sorta ambitious. They get into the stuff you're into. You think...ah...well this is awesome. Perfection. There's some disagreements....normal. Coolness.
How long can they stay in character? Man, I've seen folks do it for years. YEARS. They play it.
Sad huh?
Ya'll don't do that. Just rock you. In all of my mess, I'm down for Rhon. I'm not agreeable. (giggle) I'm stubborn. I'm me. I'm all Aquarian. At the same time, I'm a "ride or die" chick. I will have your back 100%. There are things I do believe you team up with partner . My ex was a business man and there were plenty of business ventures that I assisted him with. I'm not talking bout that sorta thing. You should jump on board but you should do it because you believe in the partnership. You shouldn't try to impress so that you think he/she will stay.
Rock you. Love you. Be you.
As much as I beef about my weight, I love me. I'm awesome. You're awesome.
Relationships shouldn't be built on some falsehood.
LOVE YOU.
:)
i'm chipper today!
Real Thang.....I've been lovin' this song because...its all about being real.
I remember trying to be EVERYTHING for my ex-boyfriend. It came naturally but I also compromised a peace of me as well.
Being single for sooooooooooooooooo long, (gigglin'), I've sat and watched the dynamics of various relationships around me. I can see where I made similar mistakes out of insecurity. You take leaps that you wouldn't ordinarily do. You start liking stuff because he/she likes them. You want to be the spark in their eyes. Been there and never going back. I'm all for making my partner happy but Rhon is about the real deal. I can't jump, leap or hop that high anymore and I wouldn't want a man who would expect it.
Be true to you.
This is what I've seen over and over. In the beginning of the relationship, everyone has their list.
I want him to be smart.
I want him to be ambitious.
I want him to be cultured
blah, blah, blah....
So, the potential partner hears this. They want you. They like you ALOT. They aren't as cultured. They really just like being the clerk (not the manager), the janitor (not the supervisor), the nursing assistant (not the nurse). That's all good though. DO YOU! They are smart BUT finds no use for it. They are cool though. When you look at them, you can see potential. There's something that keeps you there, right. Not all bad.
But the potential partner is a little insecure. They remember the list. They don't think you could like them FULLY because of who they are so they fake it. They fake until they make it. They try to fit into the list. Its not authenically who they are but they like you. They suddenly become sorta ambitious. They get into the stuff you're into. You think...ah...well this is awesome. Perfection. There's some disagreements....normal. Coolness.
How long can they stay in character? Man, I've seen folks do it for years. YEARS. They play it.
Sad huh?
Ya'll don't do that. Just rock you. In all of my mess, I'm down for Rhon. I'm not agreeable. (giggle) I'm stubborn. I'm me. I'm all Aquarian. At the same time, I'm a "ride or die" chick. I will have your back 100%. There are things I do believe you team up with partner . My ex was a business man and there were plenty of business ventures that I assisted him with. I'm not talking bout that sorta thing. You should jump on board but you should do it because you believe in the partnership. You shouldn't try to impress so that you think he/she will stay.
Rock you. Love you. Be you.
As much as I beef about my weight, I love me. I'm awesome. You're awesome.
Relationships shouldn't be built on some falsehood.
LOVE YOU.
:)
i'm chipper today!
Real Thang.....I've been lovin' this song because...its all about being real.
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