I posted the definition on a board and anytime I was sadden, I looked at the definition - HOPE.
We have to take control even in darkness.
Doing that was the way to cope with my circumstances in the best possible way. Doesn't mean I was healed but I wasn't destructive.
At some point in my life, I learned that I'm responsible for my emotions and my responses to life's ups and downs. What we see is that this isn't the norm. We are reactionary and believe others hold the key to our happiness and peace. Our culture preaches that peace, success, and happiness come from external things and from people. Be reprogrammed and believe you have Hope.