I have been single for about 8 years. That doesn't mean haven't gone out on a date or a few or that I haven't had sex. It means that I haven't committed myself to a relationship in a long time. Most of this time my focus was working and raising my daughter. Some would say that I'm one of those single Black women who finds herself single and in her 40's. They would say that I've been too focused on my career and too picky. We know the conversation. We know the long cry of the single, Black, and female. I've had my conversations with men who ask, "What is wrong with you?" What is wrong with me? hmmm...... I'm oddly traditional or old fashioned. I don't approach men. I don't flirt very well at all. I acknowledge that I can't read the "signals" if someone is interested. Maybe, this is why I'm single. (Kanye shrug) In all of my dating angst, I do know that I'm ready, now, to experience the magical ...