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Working in the health field can be overwhelming being a black woman. You hear the stats that rarely have any good news for black women. HIV, diabetes, lupus, heart disease, breast cancer....and the list goes on and on. Then you have those that tell us that we are the least desired (Black women and Asian men) in the US. Personally, I've always gotten more attention from non-American black men but understand what has happened to the psyche of some of brothers. I can't blame them 100%. But what does all of this do to the mindset of Black women living in the US? How do we push through the fact that we may end up unmarried, left as single mothers, and have to raise a family financially alone? AND then get blamed for why black children have certain issues? I even had a brotha tell me that me being educated is a part of the problem for black men. (sigh) He said that black women are being used as tools to break down black men because we are being "trained" seek out p...

I was talking with a girlfriend yesterday. We were talking about relationships, love, dating, etc. I'm single as I can be and that's very cool. My friends all tell me that I'm clueless of how I'm perceived. The term "intimidating" always pops up. I'm like...whatever. I'm a regular chick. I'm super cool. No need for intimidation. She reminded me that perception is reality and I need to understand my "presence". (shrug, roll eyes....ok...whatever). She says that it plays a role in how I relate to men and how men deal with me. okayyyyyy. So we get back to this dating thing. I'm cool. I'm one to believe there are good men out there but because of timing, distance or we just didn't vibe, things haven't happen. Ok. Then she says, "Don't show up for an audition when the show has already been cast." I just really cracked up. Taking it further...or if the director doesn't even know the script. B...